So often intimacy is only associated with marriage, but it is so much more than that!
In this final stretch before Christmas, I’m sharing with you ways that I’ve found to have and give more intimacy this holiday season.
Join me as we look at 12 days of unexpected and new-found intimacy. And who knows, you might just find yourself Glowing Still a bit more brightly!
Cold Feet #3 – 12 Days of Unexpected Intimacy
In elementary school, children are taught different types of reasoning.
One of which is deductive reasoning. Remember those simple little poems? Well, in case your memory failed you of 5th-grade grammar class, here’s a simple one I made up.
I have cold feet.
All women have cold feet.
Therefore, I am a woman.
Just thinking about this makes me laugh because most deductive reasoning in life is not so simple. There are many other things that classify me as a woman than just cold feet. But isn’t true??? Most women really do have cold feet. When I researched this fact, it was rather interesting the “why” behind it.
According to an article published in January 2017 in Glamour Magazine, it stated many reasons that women are colder. The two points in the article that surprised me the most were this. First off, women have a higher Core temperature than men. So while it would make sense that if you’re hotter, then you wouldn’t be so cold. But actually, the opposite is true.
Think of it this way. Which feels cooler to you when you walk into your house with the thermostat set at 70-degrees….is it (1) When you’ve been outside walking in 75-degree weather or (2) When you’ve been outside walking in 95-degree weather? Obviously, the 70-degree house is going to “feel” much cooler when you’re used to the 95-degree weather. So for women, the same is true. When your core is warmer, you’re going to feel the cold much faster. For me, I usually classify it right up there with yearly OBGYN appointments and visiting the dentist.
The second area that surprised me is “why” women are hotter. Hormones.
Yes, those blessed little things that we know so well. Every. Single. Month. (after month). And, the article went to state, that if you are on artificial hormones like birth control, the effect can be worsened. This not exactly a win: win scenario for most women under the age of 50.
To sum it all up, I’m am so glad my husband is not in the cold-feet category. He is quite the opposite on the temperature scale, and usually nice and warm! So! Being the loving and caring wife that I am, I decided that one his husbandly duties is to warm me up in the cold months.
I think this is why I like winter bedtime snuggles so much.
In the summer, it’s just too hot to bury yourself under a mound of soft comforters, but in the winter time, it’s extra special. I love how he takes his warm arms and wraps them around me. He just holds me until I slowly defrost and I get warm.
Now when he’s not there or I’m going to bed early, I have to use such dreadful items as a heated blanket and socks (rough life, I know!) But, I do look forward to the intimacy that cold weather has created. There is just something so special about being held. I feel loved. Safe. Secure. And as a woman, I need that.
Sure I like gifts, such as flowers and shopping sprees. I love adventure outings like our jet-skiing excursion in the Carribean. But at the end of a hard long day, I simply want that sense of security and feeling of being loved. And yes, having my frozen feet nice and toasty is definitely an added perk!
Sound off in the comments what you do when you’re freezing cold!