Do Not Pass Go, Do not Collect $200 – 12 days of Unexpected Intimacy

Board Games - more influential than you think

Do not pass go! Do not collect $200. Go directly to Jail!

When one hears words like this, it is easy to remember days gone by and think of the games that we have shared through the holidays.  Whether it be Monopoly (as mentioned above), Clue, Uno, or Rummikub, my life has been shaped by the board games that have been shared around the holidays!
 In a way, I could easily say it was just the fun and the experience of the games that shaped me.  But as I think about the games themselves,  I have learned so many life lessons.

So today, on this 8th day of unexpected intimacy, I want to share what I have learned by playing board games.

 Winning is great. But not if you have to destroy everyone else to get there.  A perfect example: Monopoly. Owning everything, collecting all the rent for houses and hotels while bankrupting your friends may make for a fun evening but it's a bad strategy for life.  No one wants to be around you at the end.
 checkmateMake wise decisions by using careful deductions gathered from asking the right questions.  The game of Clue is all about trying to guess "who did it" or who committed the crime.  Sometimes asking the same question again and again with the tiniest difference will force the other players to show their hand and ultimately you will win.  In life, it's the same way. You must learn to ask the right questions to the right people, and the best way to do that is paying attention to what was said. Learn from it. And use that information to help form your next question.

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Think outside of the box and be creative.  Scattergories was a favorite game of mine. In this game, you would be assigned a letter, and you would have to answer 12 questions starting with the same letter.  For example: what is a color that begins with the letter "P"?  Pale Purplish-Pink would score 3 points versus purple would just be 1 point.  But, if your answer matched someone else's answer, neither of you would get any points.  In life, the same problem can occur. Just doing exactly what others do, will not get you ahead.

Life is not a straight line. Sometimes you have to build at the beginning, the end, and swoop back to the middle to survive.  The same strategy works well for Ticket to Ride.  This game is simple to learn. You just pick up color-coded train cards and create a train line from one point to the next.  However, the strategy comes in because you and your fellow players often want the same train cards and the best routes.  Not tipping your hand and letting your competitors know your exact route will keep them guessing and you are able to play and win.playing cards

Be kind to others and share what you have. The kindness often is returned.  While attempting to explain Settlers of Catan in a single blog entry is impossible (the game is very advanced, but so much fun). Let me simply say, if you want to lead and win in life, learn to help out your fellow game players. Don't be stingy with your resources.

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Lastly, when you don't know what to do. Simply fold your cards in your hands and take a break. As the old song goes, "got to know when to hold 'em, Know when to fold 'em."  Life is the same way. Sometimes you don't have the answers. Sometimes you don't have the right amount of knowledge and you don't know what to do.  That is not the time to push out and make huge decisions.  It's time to step back, reevaluate, and plan for the future.

So that is what I have learned. Let me know in comments what are your favorite board games to play, and share what you have learned from them.

So often intimacy is only associated with marriage, but it is so much more than that!

  In this final stretch before Christmas, I'm sharing with you ways that I've found to have and give more intimacy this holiday season.   

Join me as we look at 12 days of unexpected and new-found intimacy. And who knows, you might just find yourself Glowing Still a bit more brightly!