The Decision Making Process
Should I make this decision? It’s hard. Weighing the positives and negatives start to overwhelm me.
I am not an indecisive person, some of the time…well, most of the time. Ok. Sometimes I am. Making decisions can be difficult.
My decision-making process is through my personality, the lens of what is happening right now, emotional make-up, and overall mood. Yes, I said emotional make-up. Why? Because I am an emotional creature. I could deny it, and expound for a long time that I shouldn’t make decisions with my emotions, but that would be lying.
I’m wired for emotions. I think with my head and my heart all of the time. This can be a weakness or it can be a strength.
Emotional decisions have to be balanced in life as well as logical decisions.
There is nothing logical about loving a child who is covered in filth, whiny for the past 45 minutes, and arguing with their siblings. It is not logical at all. Logic would demand that you “shut the child up” and be done with them. However, the emotional love I have for my children allows me to show kindness to the child during that time. Get them into the bath, and calmly teach them the right way to get my attention (and discipline were needed as well).
Logical decisions are important as well. Making the right decisions about your health, where to move, buying a new home, which job to accept, what workout program is good for you, or eating broccoli versus fried okra.Emotional decisions have to be balanced in life as well as logical decisions. #lifecoach #decision #golden Click To Tweet
On the flip side, emotional decisions are notoriously fraught with a bad reputation. And rightly so. They can be a mess to deal with. Emotional decisions like eating at 9 pm at night after an argument with my husband. Fighting endlessly on end, because I am right…and I know it. Turning to alcohol, drugs, and other addictions are often emotional decisions.
While alcohol and drugs are the popular addictions for the majority of the world, there are more insidious addictions that are hidden a bit better. What about silent pride, cold-shouldered treatment of your spouse, emotional distance, anger, outbursts, lashing out, or maxing my credit card on a shopping spree.
What is the answer? How do you decide between an emotional decision versus a logical one? The answer is…context, wisdom, and guidance.
The Context of Emotional Decisions
In every job that must be done, there is an element of fun. You find the fun and “snap” the job’s a game – Mary Poppins
- Positives for emotional decisions:
- Fast, immediate decisions – like slamming on your breaks swerving to avoid traffic
- Associated with gut-decisions
- *May* be associated with faith-based decisions, like a sudden impulse to do something you normally wouldn’t.
- Negative Emotional decisions
- Slower in response, it will take you some time to think about these
- Involves an Analytical approach usually based on experience and learning (life experiences, educational training)
- Uses graphs and charts to prove choices
- Consults with others before making the decision
- Cold, unemotional responses – similar to Spock
Reading through the negative emotional list, it would seem that fast emotional decisions are wrong, and they should never be done.
But research shows us that there are a time and a place for fast decisions. There is also time to sit back, think, weigh the decision, ask for advice, and then carefully choose the right one.
I’m often confronted with this process. Through my life, I have to make decisions every single day. Some are quick and others require months of waiting to tiptoe my response…and then there are some that will take years to see if the right decision is made.
Whether those choices are the right ones can only be determined over time, but that is not the point. You made those choices based on your own experiences and knowledge. Jeff BartonWhether those choices are the right ones can only be determined over time, but that is not the point. You made those choices based on your own experiences and knowledge. @jefftherunner1 Click To Tweet
How about you? Where do you fall on the scale of decision making? Are you emotional, logical, or something else? What drives your decisions for dinner today, where you vacation next year, which outfit you put on, how you date your spouse? Let me know in the comments; I’d love to hear from you!
This is part 1 of the decision-making series. Come back next week for the continuation!
Previously published on The Ascent – Aug 14, 2018